One Anothering



Heaven coaching 

This is another method of one anotherIng where you ask open questions as led whilst in heavenly realms and the other person seeks to see in heaven . 

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WHAT IS COACHING?

Basic Concept-

o A- Where are YOU now?

o B – How  are YOU  going to get there?

o C – Where DO  you want to go?

Coach facilitates coming up with own solutions not giving answers as often own answers are not appropriate for that personality or circumstances – assumption people know what is best for them and can discern this from God.

Coaching can involve concepts such as-

o Moving forward, setting goals, keeping you on track, overcoming obstacles.

o Providing resources for moving forward.

o Planning time, directing to professional help, clarity, self-awareness, sounding board, challenge, validation, encouragement/enthusing.

Expanding opportunities as opposed to solving crisis situations. If crisis may need to refer to specialist such as eating disorders, and depression.

One Commonly Used Process – GROW MODEL

  • Goals – (where do you want to get to) -this is where you can ask for a blueprint.
  • Reality – (where are you now).
  • Options – (Strategy)- CAN GO TO COURT OF WAR FOR THIS.
  • Way forward – (Action points, Time frame, Evaluation of Options, Checking Obstacles and Motivation.
Difference between Coaching/ Mentoring/Consulting/Counselling/ Discipling

A. Mentoring-

  • drawing on own experience, not necessarily saying that you recommend doing this

B. Coaching-

  • Independent- keep questioning until they come up with solution, assuming they know best. Can ask about scriptures that they know of or what they feel God is asking of them. Important that listening, questioning and reflecting back represents 80% of the conversation not putting your own point of view or preaching at someone.

C. Discipling-

  • Bringing in more scriptures, maybe words, prophecy, looking at whole walk and assessing elements to work on and including prayer.

D. Consulting-

  • Expert giving advice- recommended course of action- in-depth analysis of situation and then often a report is presented

E. Counselling-

  • Many different models but often more of an emphasis on drawing on past- fixing problem,
  • often -expert presenting solution after questioning,
  • Not so action orientated and goal focused,
  • more dealing with acute, crisis situations rather than trying to make something better.
Benefits of Coaching (important to know to keep motivation)
  • Helps deal with stumbling blocks or fear/ confidence
  • More likely to see change as there is accountability
  • Tailored to an individual where they are – as opposed to teaching
  • Deals with sabotaging behaviour not just knowledge or skills
  • Provides encouragement and acknowledgement which are so important to growth
  • Challenges individual to move out of their comfort zone but can also be a

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Alan Hirsch: Disciple Making

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