How to Honor Another
Bill Brady 5/27/18
Jesus said, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own country, among his own relatives, and in his own house.”
- Jesus was not honored by His family and those who knew Him when He was growing up.
- They were unable to receive Him as a prophet because they thought that they knew Him.
- As a result, He couldn’t do for them what He did for everyone else.
- So, the beginning of honoring a prophet is to receive the prophet as a prophet.
You honor someone when you receive them as sent by God for a purpose.
- To be in specific relationship to you.
- To do a specific function with respect to you.
- To change you in a specific way.
- Bringing you into your destiny.
You honor a prophet when you receive them as sent by God.
- As a prophet.
- And allow them to function as a prophet to you.
The same principle applies to any person sent by God into your life.
- You honor your parents when you receive them as your God-given parents.
- And allow them to father and mother you.
- You honor a spiritual father when you receive them as a father.
- And allow them to father you.
- You honor a brother or sister when you receive them as siblings.
- And allow them to function as brothers or sisters towards you.
What purpose does Father have in sending someone into your life?
- First, and foremost is the simple joy of life in relationship and in a family.
- From relationship we grow up into destiny.
- From relationship with one another we become more like Jesus.
God has promised to work all things together for the good of making us like Jesus.
- This includes every relationship with everyone in our life.
- Even the most hardened unbeliever that we relate least to functions this way in our life.
- How much more someone who is functioning in their destiny with respect to our destiny?
God is working through every person in our life to make us like Jesus.
- Whether that person accepts the purpose of God or not.
- Their function in your life doesn’t depend on their relationship to God or to you.
- It depends on your relationship to God and to them.
This puts a new perspective on that difficult person.
- In your Facebook chat group.
- In your encounter group.
- In your heavenly family.
- On your bench.
- At work.
“Honor all people. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king.”
- There are two reasons to honor a person.
- 1st reason to honor: Because of their position and thus of their function towards you.
- 2nd reason to honor: Because they are made in the image of God.
- This first reason applies to anyone in a position of authority: parents, kings, etc.
- The second reason applies to everyone.
- Especially to all who are brothers and sisters in the Lord.
Some verses on honor:
“Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor.”
- We are to give honor according to how much honor is due.
- Honor is due to each according to who they are in relation to us.
- And what they have done.
- So, a king is due honor because they are a king.
- But a good king is due more honor than one who is not.
“You shall rise before the gray headed and honor the presence of an old man, and fear your God: I am the Lord.”
- Honor is due to those who are old.
- Honor is not just by word.
- It is also by deed.
- And is because we fear God.
“This people honors Me with their lips, But their heart is far from Me.”
- True honor reflects a heart attitude of honor.
- Honor that is not from a heart attitude of honor is false honor.
There is a difference between honor and flattery.
- Flattery attempts to get something in return for false honor.
- It is manipulative.
- And seeks to move another into pride.
- Seeking false honor in return.
True honor is accompanied by humility.
- (There is also a false humility.)
- False humility is pride.
- “Search me O God and know my heart…”
“Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another.”
- In honoring a brother or sister we are to give them preference over ourselves.
- This means that we put them before ourselves as being more deserving of honor.
We are responsible to honor others.
- We are to make sure to honor others.
- We don’t have to make sure that others honor us.
Servant leadership does not require honor from others.
- Servant leaders humble themselves and give honor.
- Even when others fail to give honor in return.
- God keeps track of another’s failure to honor us.
- He will correct them Himself.
- Or through others who overheard dishonor.
- Correction is always best done in private with great tact and an attitude of love.
- A servant leader’s greatness consists first and foremost of their humility.
When praised we thank the one who praised us.
- And go trade that praise on the Sea of Glass.
- This keeps us humble in receiving honor from one another.
What is honoring?
- Honor is being open and keeping gates open as you entertain what others share.
- Honor is foremost an attitude of the heart towards others and is based in love.
What is not dishonoring?
- Not resonating with something and saying so is not dishonor.
- Disagreeing is not dishonoring.
- Asking questions is not dishonoring.
Honor tells people.
- Honor doesn’t assume that someone gets enough honor.
- And doesn’t leave it to others.
- Honor doesn’t stay in the background.
We have a culture of honor and a culture of dialog.
- We honor one another while seeking truth by dialoging with one another.
- We dialog towards mutual understanding of truth.
- We are free to disagree with one another.
- While still honoring one another.
Discussion based on mutual honor is so lacking in society today.
- There is little modeling of how to dialog with one another about truth.
- Without attacking one another.
- Or feeling personally attacked because someone disagrees with us.
- We can think another wrong while still honoring them.
- And love them and not attack or accuse them.
The Ecclesia is a place of honor.
- How could it not be when we are all lords, kings, sons and fathers?
- At the end of our preparatory journey we will all be crowned with glory and honor.
Honor sees one another through the eyes of love.
- We see each other as complete in Christ.
- Crowned with glory and honor.
- And speak it into being.
This is the honor that everyone born into the world is destined for.
- “I see myself crowned with glory and honor.”
- “I see the Ecclesia crowned with glory and honor.”
- “I see you crowned with glory and honor.”
A search of the Bible for the phrase “glory and honor” is eye-opening.
- Psalm 8
- Hebrews 2
- 2 Peter 1:17: ‘For He received from God the Father honor and glory when such a voice came to Him from the Excellent Glory: “This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.”’
- The Revelation of Jesus Christ
“A man’s pride will bring him low,
But the humble in spirit will retain honor.”