Why Becoming Family is a key part of the New Wineskin

Bill Brady   7/11/18

This page is being written to aid me in my fathering of this family.

  • It is not for general circulation.
  • If it has been sent to you because you and I are in father / son relationship.
  • And I want for you to understand family.
  • And to become family.

We are a house.

  • With Jane and myself as fathers.
  • Jane is our founding father.
  • She is my father too.
  • I am in relationship with Jane both as her son.
  • And as one of a team of fathers who are fathering this family.

You are in relationship with me as a son. 

  • You can acknowledge a person as your father.
  • But not be in relationship to them as a father.
  • And there are levels of that relationship.

Fathers and emerging fathers in this house currently know both Jane and myself. 

  • As we grow it will not always be that way.
  • We won’t be able to father everyone by relationship.
  • Most will have their intimate fathering relationship with one of our sons.
  • With one of you.

We are now learning what it means to have sons begin to father in this house.

  • Jane and I have let go and let sons begin to father.
  • Not just facilitation, but active fathering.
  • By intimate relationship.

Most sons need intimate relationship with a father in order to grow into sonship.

  • Then to move into and grow into fathering.
  • Then to move into and grow into fathering fathers.

A few don’t need this intimate relationship with a father.

  •  Those few have destiny to go ahead as forerunners of forerunners.
  • These few are designed to not need that relationship.
  • They get what they need from Father alone.
  • There is no one ahead of them to father them.
  • So they are able to forerun for the forerunners.

The rest of us need a combination.

  • Of Fathering from Father.
  • And fathering from fathers.
  • It’s a balance for each of us.

It must not become old wineskin or pastoral. 

  • A father is not a covering for a son.
  • A father is not over a son.
  • A father is under a son facilitating that son into sonship.

The son does their own personal journey on their own.

  • With only that input that is necessary from the father.
  • Nothing more.
  • Nothing less.
  • Some sons need more.
  • Some less.
  • If the father gives more than needed, then the son may become dependent.
  • If the father gives less than what is needed, then the son may not launch out.
  • The goal is to produce an independent son who has confident faith in Father.

The same process applies when it comes to moving out into fathering.

  • The right balance of relationship is needed.
  • From a father to a son to facilitate the son moving into fathering.
  • Encouragement and availability.
  • Counsel.
  • Every father will find the balance with each son.

And again when the new father begins to move into fathering fathers.

  • Every step of the way the father is available to the son.
  • And the father / son relationship continues to develop into something new.
  • Based on the current need of the son for fathering.
  • And there is a new balance of fathering / Fathering .
  • Fathers always point sons to Father.

Along with this developing father / son relationship is responsibility.

  • Sons who begin fathering are taking on responsibility.
  • Not for sons, but for fathering sons.
  • Fathers who are fathering fathers are responsible for that fathering.
  • But they are not responsible for fathering the sons of those fathers.

Think of this in terms of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

  • They all have Abraham for their father.  (So do we.)
  • They are all part of Abraham’s house.  (So are we.)
  • They all receive from Abraham as a father.
  • But Abraham only actively fathered Isaac.
  • And Abraham is only responsible for his fathering of Isaac.
  • Isaac is only responsible for his fathering of Jacob.

Each of us is only responsible for fathering first generation sons.

  • Our grandsons are fathered by our sons.
  • At the same time that we are fathering new first generation sons.

This explains the dynamics and the nature of our relationships within a house.